An old saying from the 60’s was "Life is what is." That is only the case if you let it be what is. It is what YOU make of it. You can not sit and wait for destiny or others to define your life. You need to jump up and take control and make it everything you ever wanted it to be. Dream it, plan it, work hard, fail sometimes and try again and again if necessary but do it. And while you are at it, drag some non-believers with you. That is your destiny.