Like driving on ice, in order to gain control sometimes you must first release control so as not to crash. Life is the same way. The more you try to control it the less you control. When you wake in the morning tell yourself how your day is going to be and then let go and let it happen. If you say this is going to be a crapping day, it surely will. You attitude controls you.
“To get up each morning with the resolve to be happy... is to set our own conditions to the events of each day. To do this is to condition circumstances instead of being conditioned by them.” – Ralph Waldo Trine