My grandsons often say that is not fair. My response is always, life is not fair. It is not fair that children are abused or raised in poverty, but it happens all the time. But as adults, life if what you make of it. Somewhere along the line as an adult, you need to take responsibility for your life and stop blaming the past or other people for what it is. Look at the number of people who have gone onto do great things with their life that came out of poverty, abuse, pain, or great loss. I find my greatest heroes’ lives were full of adversity and pain. They learned from it and became what they wanted to be. I believe that it was the hardships they had in their life that made them the great people they are or were. Man can be conditioned to almost anything by life. You need to recondition yourself into what you want your life to be. Don’t let life condition you. Go for it. To begin with you need to fake it until you make it. You may have to work harder than others, but in the end it is all worth it.
And please, please don’t forget others after you have made it. It is a terrible thing when people that make it forget to help others who are working through the same hardships. Don’t forget what it was like doing on your own. Take pride in that you did it, but help make it a little easier for the next guy so he does not have to do it completely on his own. Maybe it will be a beginning of conditioning others to help life be a little fairer and pass it forward. You have got to have a lot of heart for both reconditioning your life and helping others.
"The moment we fully and vitally realize who and what we are, we then begin to build our own world even as God builds his. Within yourself lies the cause of whatever enters into your life. To come into the full realization of your own awakened interior powers is to be able to condition your life in exact accord with what you would have it" - Ralph Waldo Trine from his book In Tune With the Infinite